By Destrie Overmoe
There is something about reconnecting two hearts that have been separated for a time – it is a beautiful process.
In today’s world, each adoption can land anywhere on the spectrum of closed and open adoptions. We often use the imagery of a door that can be opened just a crack or wide open. In semi-open adoptions there are visits, pictures, and letters; in really open adoptions identifying information is shared between all parties involved. In some cases, people choose that for the time being, minimal or no contact is best. Keep in mind that no contact right now does not mean no contact forever, and it definitely does not mean that the decision was made without love. So what happens when contact is desired later on in life? Search.
Search allows for birth parents or adoptees to seek each other out usually with the assistance of the placing agency. As Case Manager at Christian Family Life Services, I get the honor of conducting Searches on behalf of adoptees or birth parents.
In North Dakota, adoptees can begin searching for their birth family once they are 18, but adoptees cannot be searched for until they are 21. A recent case started when *David decided that it was the right time to look for *Melanie, his birth mother. Most often it is the adoptee who is wondering “Where did I come from?” and wants to search for his/her birth parents. Sometimes families start with ongoing contact, but it decreases or ends as families get busy with raising children or birth parents forget to give address updates to the agency...
Read the rest of the article (A Time to Search) in our Thanksgiving Newsletter!
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