The term "foster care" conjures up feelings for many people who have experience with social services in this way. Many expectant mothers considering an adoption plan shy away from their children receiving temporary care before going into their adoptive home and many families pursuing adoption look specifically at domestic infant adoption to avoid the baggage or messiness that is assumed or associated with the foster care system. We understand the range of emotions and have seen concerns validated in news stories or hearing personal stories, but some times the associations come more from dramatized accounts in movies and TV rather than an accurate account.
At CFLS, we have seen some very helpful temporary homes for a baby receiving placement in a few days. This can help a mom who didn't know she was pregnant with making an adoption plan after delivery, or help when there are other factors that allow for the adoptive family to not have a risk placement.
We also believe families can be pro-active with their adoption, and once they have received education and completed their home assessment, they are welcome to see what connections they might have in their community to provide a two-parent, Christian home to a child in need of a forever family. We recently saw God's hand in bringing a family together that sought traditional infant adoption, but the couple kept their eyes and ears open in their community and were blessed with a surprise. We'll let them tell their story...
His ways are not our ways. They are better!
My wife, Erika and I had a wonderful experience adopting our first child, Austin, through a private adoption agency, Christian Family Life Services. When we were ready to add to our family, it was an easy decision to work with them again. After getting everything in order, we settled in to wait. A year went by, then two. After nearly three years of waiting to be matched, we received an email from a friend who forwarded a post from someone in our church: "Two siblings in need of a forever home. Please call if interested." I showed Erika and we agreed I should make the call. Ray and Milo (2 yrs and 9 mos at the time) were in the foster care system, being fostered by their aunt and uncle who could not adopt them permanently. After a couple of weeks of questions on whether or not we'd be considered candidates by the county, we got a call asking our social worker to contact the county social worker. We never thought about doing foster care to adopt, yet here we were, considering that this may be what God had in mind to add not just one more child to our family but two! We met Ray and Milo on a Friday. They were in our home the following Tuesday and have been with us since. Amazingly, our agency and the county were able to work things out so that by last November, on National Adoption Day, we officially made Ray and Milo part of our family, and we made Austin a very proud and happy big brother! We thank God for the creative ways he has made us parents by entrusting us with our three sons. His ways are not our ways. They are better!
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